Comfort

LE fredwilson • 19 days ago Comfort. Harville Hendrix theorized that children try to right the wrongs of their parents in relationships. And I think this also extends to other factors in terms of how someone was raised. I have found that to be the case anecdotally over time and by observation of many people. [1]

This quote sheds some light:

“Romantic Love delivers us into the passionate arms of someone who will ultimately trigger the same frustrations we had with our parents, but for the best possible reason! Doing so brings our childhood wounds to the surface so they can be healed.”

[1] This is why some people marry replicas of their parents while others marry the exact opposite. Likewise if you parents were cheap you might either be cheap as well or the exact opposite. With child rearing applies also. Very polarized responses regardless of how you viewed it yourself and how you were raised. IE I am a hard ass because I was raised by a hard ass but my sisters are the opposite same household. So if your parents were difficult you may find it a challenge to marry a difficult person thinking that you can fix what you weren't able to do growing up. The 2 people that married me married the exact opposite of their fathers as did multiple woman that I dated.